What I've learned about Parenting in the Digital Age...

Back in November, I attended the Family Online Safety Institute Annual Conference.  After the conference, I started reflecting on how hard it must be to be a parent these days.  I'm not a parent, but I am an aunt and a teacher.  In those roles, I've heard countless parents seeking more information and guidance on how to handle technology use with their children and adolescents.   It's an area that is constantly changing which causes it's own challenges.  So here are the major take aways that I gained from the FOSI conference.

Balance risk and reward in the digital world.

I loved this quote from Sonia Livingstone of the London School of Economics: "Children have to encounter risks because it's how they live and learn.  It's how they go out into the world and become resilient." As parents and educators, we cannot shelter kids from the things they may encounter in the world.  Instead, we need to prepare them and give them opportunities to navigate the digital world.  This can be hard sometimes because we worry about what they may see, hear, or find. Parents and teachers must develop a relationship with children and students that allows for open conversation. 

Be a role model.

During the conference, Michael Rich from the Center on Media and Child Health at Harvard University said, "Kids hear about 1% of what we say, but see 100% of what we do."  If we model our expectations, it will make it much easier to enforce.  If you expect your child to unplug during dinner, then you too must do it. 

Let kids be bored!

Boredom can spark creativity and innovation.  As tempting as it is to pacify kids with technology, it's important for them to develop the skills of being bored.  We do a disservice to our kids and students if we constantly entertain them. Encourage your kids and your whole family to unplug every weekend for a period of time.  

Sleep is important!

We all know that kids and teenagers need lots of quality sleep.  Technology can interfere with their ability to get a good night's rest.  One of the best suggestions that I heard at the conference is to make their bedrooms a tech free zone.  Even if a phone is silenced or turned off, having it nearby can create anxiety which causes poor sleep.  Creating a charging or docking station in a common space of your home, is a good way to keep technology out of the bedroom overnight.

People before Technology

This concept of "People before technology" came from Erin Reilly of the USC Annenberg Innovation Lab.  It is a phrase that she started using with her son when he was a toddler to let him know when it was time to put down a device.  I can see how this phrase can apply to any age, even for adults.  At the end of the day, what matters most is people.  What we say and do on the internet affects others.  It is important to take the time to reflect on how our actions online might affect someone else.  

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